Dating an old family friend
I felt cheated and hurt.” -Andrea C., 31Expert take: Even if a guy doesn’t say straight out in his profile that he’s only looking for hook-ups, some will offer hints.Those who use phrases similar to “hoping to be friends first” are usually looking for fun rather than commitment, says Laurie Davis, founder and CEO of e Flirt Expert, and author of You can also weed out the casual sex seekers by looking at the context around your planned date: Is he willing to set up a date for a week or so later?We talked, texted, and connected online almost daily until we could see each other again two months later.After he arrived at my place, he got a phone call saying his grandmother was being sent to the emergency room. When I went onto Facebook within a few days to see how his family was doing, I noticed he changed my status to ‘limited profile,’ so I couldn’t access everything on his page.
Fast forward a few months, and the family friend let it slip that the guy was just dumped by a girl he’d been dating for months.“The weekend didn’t live up to your expectations—but what really happened is that this guy didn’t live up to the expectations that you had created over the prior few months,” says Lissa Coffey, relationship expert and author of Her take: “I used a dating site a few years ago and was linked up with someone that didn't have a photo on his profile.I asked him for a picture, and he sent me a video clip of him as a police officer where two of his friends shocked him with a taser gun because they thought it was funny. ” -Amy W., 39Expert take: Men and women find different things attractive and look for different things in profiles.To be sure you don’t give the wrong impression, “set a date for the future, and make it the right time of day and place so the intention of getting to know each other is there in the beginning,” recommends Ian Kerner, Ph.D., co-author of Her take: “The first guy I dated when I moved to New York let me take care of him, which I thought would lead to a relationship.